Once you realize that you feel unsettled about something your date has done, don’t arrange to be alone with them or travel away from your home with them. If you draw a boundary and say “no,” the stalker then uses physical intimidation to get you to do what he/she wants. They may grab or touch you aggressively, or stand close to you in a way that crowds you and makes you afraid that you can’t get away.Īlways alert your neighbors, friends, and family if you start dating someone who has somehow made you a little nervous. If you show a little too much independence, the stalker will try to get you to cancel any plans or take him/her with you regardless of where you’re going. If this person starts to get the feeling that you are pulling away, the stalker kicks into overdrive because he/she is terrified that abandonment will soon follow.
They don’t want to share you with friends or anyone else. Stalkers want to have you all to themselves.
